Saturday, December 17, 2011

Ain't nothing like the real thing...

When Jewels and I embarked on this journey into enforced male chastity, we both realized that there would be major changes in our sex life… that is what this is fundamentally about.  What we did not realize is the type of changes it would have.  Sure, there was the obvious one: I don’t get an orgasm every time (or any time before next June) we play.  Unfortunately, to achieve this, it became necessary to drastically limit (or just about eliminate) traditional penetrative sex.  This restriction took away Jewels’ favorite (and most fulfilling) path to her own orgasms.

Don’t miss understand.  We are both comfortable and capable at bringing her to orgasm through other means… but the orgasms are never as strong and satisfying as with a good old fashioned PiV (penis-in-vagina) fucking.  Jewels never really broached the subject of her disappointment, but I could easily tell.  In mid-August we decided to try a new toy to see if we could satisfy this gap.  So, we purchased the Wild G rabbit vibrator from Eden Fantasies.  With some experimentation and lots of playful enjoyment, we found that the rabbit vibrator was a pretty good substitution for the real thing.

Something, however, was still missing.  That something was the closeness we experience when our two bodies press together in the throes of passionate intercourse.  So we both agreed that, while the rabbit was great, we needed to find a way for me engage in coitus without the risk of my having an orgasm.  We discussed the idea of using numbing creams and condoms, but found that my sensitivity to latex, coupled with the need for set up time (i.e. applying the cream, covering with a condom, and waiting for the cream to take full effect) made this idea less than favorable.

The next idea was to utilize a strap-on, worn by me.  So, last Friday (December 10th) we dug out our Doc Johnson Vac-U-Lock Ultraharness 3000 that I had purchased some time ago (hoping to get her into pegging).  We then fitted one of the only attachments we had for the harness, the 7" Raging Hard-On Cock, in place and began experimenting.  The first thing that I realized was that without any sensation in the “cock”, I could not easily sense depth or angle.  So, we took things slowly and carefully.  After a while, however, we both got so worked up that we forgot the gentile approach and went at it like rabbits.  Let me tell all of you men out there who may be thinking about trying this that you will be hard pressed to find anything more erotically frustrating than watching a penis, attached to you, pounding away at your lover while you feel absolutely nothing.  It was one hell of a tease!
Overall, all was good and Jewels was able to reach several of those fulfilling orgasms she had been missing out on.  It wasn’t until the day after that we realized that the lack of feeling combined with the passionate thrusting had been a little too much.  Throughout the week, she reminded me that, if we were going to continue with the strap-on idea, we needed to get a slightly shorter dildo for it.   After a little looking and comparing of items, we settled on the Doc Johnson Super Vac-U-Lock realistic dildo.
So, I sat down to place the order from Eden Fantasies.  It was then that I noticed the color options.  We could get a traditional flesh toned dildo or a hot pink dildo.  So, I posed the question to Jewels… her reply was simple:
“Get it in pink. It's silly to get it in life like colors since we know the real thing is locked up!”

Well, that pretty much brings you up to speed on our chastity adventure.  Now I am just awaiting the arrival of the pretty pink dildo so that we can, once again, enjoy the closeness and passion as we screw like rabbits.  Of course, it will be interesting to see just how humiliating it feels to me when I look down and see a hot pink penis, attached to my body, pleasuring my lovely wife.  I am sure the experience will be incredible and we will both enjoy every second of it!

Friday, December 16, 2011

Day 1 or Day 76?

As this is the first official start of our blog, or Day 1, I decided to start with a little story about how we got where we are today (day 76).

About 10 years ago I came across a www site with a peculiar kink that I found to be so incredibly arousing that I couldn’t get it out of my thoughts.  The www site was Altairboys and the kink was enforced chastity.  As I read the stories, product reviews, and information about home built devices, I had found the thoughts had an inverse effect on me… as I read about be forced to remain orgasm free, I masturbated like a teen.  The problem, at the time, was that I wasn’t too mature when it came to discussing sex with my wife when it came to my kinky side.  So, I read about chastity, enjoyed fantasies of it, but never acted on it until I decided to “surprise” Jewels with a CB3000 device, locked on me.

I know, it sounds just like every fantasy written for a good wank.  Next you would expect me to say that she turned into a dominant bitch who sissified me… Sorry, not the way it works in the real world.  Instead of magically transforming into Super Domme, Jewels said “Whatever floats your boat” and held onto the key for a while, but never got truly engaged in the idea.  Now, a word about timing is important here.  We were in a rather rough spot when it came to our sex life due to depression on her part and frustration/resentment on mine.  Looking back on it, I was a complete idiot.

The initial foyer into chastity ended pretty much uneventfully when I finally realized it wasn’t working right and put it away.

Over the next few years, enforced chastity remained a strong fantasy, but I was content in not doing much else with it.  But things were changing, for the better.  Jewels and I began to explore more bondage and S/M play as a way to spice up our sex life.  As we played with experiences, things got more and more kinky.  Early this year, I decided to seek out some sort of an informational site or book that would introduce Jewels to enforced male chastity in a rather unobtrusive manner.  That is when I came across Sarah Johnson’s male chastity blog and her e-book “Be Careful What You Wish For”.

I decided to buy the e-book and simply ask Jewels to read it… no other commitment.   It took about a week for her to finally start reading the book. Instead of pushing her on the subject, I decided to just let her do it in her own time... a strategy that really paid off.  Initially, we started to read the book together and have little side discussions about the psychology, our interests, and our relationship (all very positive steps). The next positive step (from my perspective) was when she started to read the book without me around... before I knew it, she was done with the book and asking me to show her ALL of the different devices on the market.

So, we sat down and looked at devices ranging from the CB-Series devices to the coveted (and pricey) Latowski belt. The first thing we agreed upon was that a full belt did not fit into our lifestyle, nor did it fit our interests... so that narrowed the market down. After some discussion on cleanliness, styling, and security we agreed on either a Steelworxx Steelheart or Steelheart 2. After some feedback from owners of the Steelheart, our minds were made up.  Unfortunately, the cost was not in the immediate budget, so we agreed that ordering it would have to wait until we could save up the spare funds. 

The very next day, as we were reading through Sarah Jameson's book on teasing and denial, we came across a tease that centered on the idea of having the woman whisper the man's greatest fantasies back to him. This brought up a discussion on what my fantasies were and lead to me writing several of them out for her. We then had some fun reading them together, discussing what and why they were so interesting to me, and talking about what was realistic and what was not.

The next week, while we were showering after going to the gym, she asked me how often I masturbate. I was somewhat honest and estimated 4-6 times a week (it was really closer to 10 times a week). She seemed surprised, not that I did it that often, but that I did it without her ever noticing. We kind of laughed about it and I told her when and where I usually did it... not thinking much about that. Well, Wednesday night she decided to tie me up, but instead of reading to me (as was the routine), she just teased my and experimented with several of the facets of my fantasies... and it was INCREDIBLE. As the evening/scene began to wind down (without my having had an orgasm) she made the comment that we should start playing with the male chastity using the “honor system”... until we final received the device. I replied that I had had similar thoughts and that I was thinking we could start when we order it... She seemed to agree with this.

After she released my from bondage, she spent the rest of the evening pretty much with me... which prevented me from finishing off what she had started with the teasing. The next morning she mentioned in passing that she had fun the previous night and that she thought that it would be interesting to see how I felt waiting until the device arrived. She added that she might let me have one last orgasm before locking it on me. My mind raced, realizing that she meant to start the honor system immediately instead of when the device was ordered... and I had missed out on having what ended up being my "one last time" orgasm from Wednesday. I commented to her that it would be another week before we ordered the device, plus up to 4 weeks to receive it. All she responded with was "yup, probably should be careful what you wish for... like I said, I might give you one before we lock it on you..."

The Steelworxx Stealheart was received in late June and Jewels kept to her word of allowing me one last orgasm… but instead of a fulfilling one that would release the ever building tension, she decided to try out a ruined orgasm using the “hands off” method.  To ensure my compliance, I was tied spread eagle to the bed, and it was a good (I think) thing that I was, because the second I was past the point of no return, she stopped ALL stimulation.  That caused me to frantically buck about, pulling against my restraints wishing for just a slight touch to make the orgasm feel complete… but there was nothing!

After I recovered some of my senses, Jewels locked the newly arrived device on me… and it stayed there for 3 weeks.  Finally, while I struggled with frustration and insanity, she let me out and allowed me a real orgasm inside of her.  As I was basking in the glory of such an intense experience, Jewels informed me that my next orgasm would not be before October, which was 85 days away.  I trembled with excitement and fear as she turned the key, locking my penis away.

True to her word, Jewels allowed me an orgasm on October 1st.  Just like the one before, it was an incredibly intense experience.  As I was recovering, she decided on my next release date.  I almost passed out when she announced to me that I would next be released and allowed an orgasm no sooner than June 4th of 2012. As I did the math in my head, I let out a whine when I finally came to the number…

248 days, at the minimum!

And, today is day 76… UGH!